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QUESTIONS WE RECEIVE


What is Sex Addiction?
Sex Addiction can involve a wide variety of practices. Sometimes an addict has trouble with just one unwanted behavior, sometimes with many.

A large number of sex addicts say their unhealthy use of sex has been a progressive process. It may have started with an addiction to masturbation, pornography (either printed or electronic), or a relationship, but over the years progressed to increasingly dangerous behaviors. We suggest you answer the 12 questions of the Self Assessment to evaluate yourself. 


Are the meetings free of charge?
Yes, all our meetings are free of charge. Typically those attending donate $2 or $3. That being said it is more important for us to have you in the room than your money so even if you can't give please attend. 

How many meetings can I attend?
You can attend as many meetings as you wish.

Can I go without making an appointment?
Yes, you may show up to the meeting at the scheduled time, we don't make appointments.
 
I see many of your meetings are in churches are you religion based?
We rent the space from churches to be able to conduct our meetings. We are a spiritual program and each member’s religion or lack of if it is not something we look to change.

How many meetings do I need to go to to see if this is for me? 
We suggest to go to at least 6 meetings as close together as possible preferably on different days of the week as each meeting is different and then decide whether SAA has anything to offer you.

How do I know it is a safe place to share?
If you prefer to only listen you are welcome to do so, we do our utmost to make the meeting a safe place. We only use our first names and stress at the end of each meeting that everything that is said should remain confidential. 

What is the rate of recovery?
Rarely have we seen people not make progress in their recovery if they work the program and take action by working the 12 steps with a sponsor. 

Are meetings only for addicts or spouses and friends can attend?
Spouses and friends can attend only the open meetings. Only those who know that they are sex addicts or believe they might be can attend the rest of the meetings.

How is sobriety defined in SAA?
“Our goal when entering the SAA program is abstinence from one or more specific sexual behaviors.
Unlike programs for recovering alcoholics or drug addicts, Sex Addicts Anonymous does not have a universal definition of abstinence. Most of us have no desire to stop being sexual altogether. It is not sex in and of itself that causes us problems, but the addiction to certain sexual behaviors. In SAA we will be better able to determine what behavior is addictive and what is healthy. However, the fellowship does not dictate to its members what is and isn't addictive sexual behavior. Instead we have found that it is necessary for each member to define his or her own abstinence.”© ISO of SAA, Inc.
 
Do you keep records of those attending meetings?
No.

How do I know if I am a sex addict?
We encourage you to take the Self Assessment and if you still have doubts and would like to call or text with someone, you can contact our 24 Hours Helpline or if you prefer to go to a meeting, Find a Meeting to attend. You can also read More About SAA and learn about our Program. 

Is what I say in meetings confidential?
The opinions expressed in meetings are strictly those of the person who gave them. What we hear is spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential.

Stories of Sex Addicts:
"There are no words to express the gratitude I have. It has now been five years since the last time I acted out. Everyone has different addictive sexual behaviors, in my case watching pornography and having sex with anonymous partners had stopped doing things for me and had started doing things to me years before I came to my first meeting, yet I was unable to stop on my own. In Sex Addicts Anonymous I accepted that sex addiction was not only real but also a problem and as I worked through my recovery in this program my ability to stay sober gradually became effortless." - E.C., New York, NY

"Sex addiction was my closely guarded secret for nearly 50 years. I feared the consequences of sharing this shameful part of myself with anyone – with friends, family, professionals or even my beloved spouse. During that time the addiction gradually took over more and more of my inner life, turning me steadily towards fantasy, unhealthy obsessions and online pornography. I was eventually “caught”, as many of us are, and experienced shame and remorse more awful than anything I’ve ever known. At that point I came to the rooms of SAA and discovered a community of men and women who shared my affliction. They welcomed me without question, accepted me for who and what I was and patiently helped me begin the long journey out of shame and isolation into a healthier, saner, more honest way of living. SAA saved my life in every possible way, and I am forever grateful." - F.L., New York, NY